Power and control in a relationship rarely looks like we imagine.
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Often it is more subtle.
It could be silence. Withdrawal. Guilt. Fear of conflict.
An invisible battle over who is right, who sets the mood, who is allowed to fill the void.
Control can come from pain.
From uncertainty.
From the fear of losing.
Some try to control by raising their voices, pressuring, criticizing, or dominating.
Others do it by shutting down, refusing contact, withholding love, or turning away.
Both create imbalance.
Both of these things make the relationship unsafe.
Power arises when one person begins to shape the behavior of another through fear.
When words, silence or reactions are used to control, rather than understand.
When love becomes conditional on the other person behaving properly.
And the most important thing is this:
It can go both ways.
No role is reserved for one gender.
It's not about who shouts the loudest, but who loses themselves the most in the relationship.
A healthy relationship is not about winning.
It's not about having power over each other.
It's about being able to be two whole people side by side, without fear of consequences if you speak your truth.
Love and control cannot coexist.
Where control begins, freedom ends.
And without freedom, love quietly withers.
True closeness only occurs when no one needs to dominate, control, or hold on.
When both dare to let go of power and instead meet in responsibility, respect and honesty.
Because love shouldn't feel like something you have to survive.
It should feel like a place where you can be yourself.